Growing more nervous as the minutes pass, he sets his items on the table and tries to adjust his tie. A lovely young woman wearing a long, elegant dress gracefully enters and stops a few feet from the young man, directing him to a chair.
The young lady seats herself and the young man picks up the bouquet, clears his throat and … As he reaches to pick up the box, he remembers that his tie is still askew and he tries to fix it, dropping the bouquet in the process. Testing his slapstick comedy act for the local drama club? A nervous young man arrives at the door of a majestic brownstone townhouse.He carries a small wood box containing a silver bracelet and ring, and a bouquet of resplendent burgundy tulips.He raps on the door, squares his shoulders and runs through the words of his speech.The door opens and he is ushered into a large, well-furnished room.Tie adjusted, box and bouquet retrieved, he clears his throat again. No, he's getting ready for the culmination of months of planning, supervised outings, amiable family dinners, walks in the park with the young lady, conversation in a parlor warmed by an autumn fire and, lastly, a brief, but serious chat with the young woman's father. Within the confines of courting, appropriate one-on-one dating played an important role; two people of marriageable age got to know one another better, their personalities, interests and so forth, before they made a more serious decision regarding marriage.
The young lady smiles at his nervous display and finally he begins his monologue … Recently courting has been getting a second look by some who sese pitfalls in today's dating scene.
Steady one-on-one dating at too young an age with no goal of marriage in sight can lead to problems and temptations.
(Of course, courting isn't the starting place for those not of marriageable age.
The natural alternative today is a group outing with less stress, less emotional attachment and still enough time to chat and compare personalities.) A date, if approached with the wrong attitude, is reckless frivolity, while courting aims at marriage.
A date with history The history of dating is based on old-fashioned courtship, which itself developed in a variety of ways from the traditional arranged marriages of much of human history.
To court means to woo and to woo means to seek the love of another with marriage in mind.