If you think you're shy, he will laugh at every lame attempt at a joke and tell you you should have been a comedian.This is called "love bombing." It's the idealization phase he gets you hooked on, and it's the phase you will spend the next however-many months or years trying to get back once he abruptly shuts it off.2. Psychopaths will try to convince you that you are soul mates, just alike.
If you had a tough childhood, he will say something like, "We both had it rough. Does he seem like he's had a tough time with people, who always use and abandon him?A form of keeping you off balance -- but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona.7. Once psychopaths have you hooked after the "love bombing" and "idealization" phase, they then begin to devalue you.The first step in that is usually to give you the silent treatment over something.Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time. You might think that's something you'd know right away by the red tint of evil in the person's eyes, the swastika tat on the forehead, or the insistence on discussing serial killers over dinner. Psychopaths can be extremely charming and come across like Prince Charming at first.So unless you know the signs, you'd probably get sucked into the life of a psychopath and not know who he or she really was until you are completely sucker punched. On the first date, he'll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty.
Here are 10 signs you should look out for to quickly identify a psychopath.1. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have.
If you think you're fat, he will tell you how much he loves your body.
That's why we understand each other." If there's an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. Whatever he says about the other people in his life is pretty much exactly what he'll be saying about you at some point, so listen carefully.4. Psychopaths absolutely love pity, so pay attention to how many illnesses and injuries he's had.
What he's doing is called "mirroring." He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you.3. Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Did he miraculously beat cancer but it could come back at any minute?
Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? ) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Once he has you hooked, you'll find yourself begging for sex because he suddenly won't want it anymore.6. A psychopath will sometimes blurt out something odd about himself, apropos of nothing.
Try to check out his stories -- call hospitals if you need to -- but don't be surprised if he has an excuse for why you can't find any record of any of his traumas.5. Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it's the best thing they've ever experienced. Like you might be cooking dinner and suddenly he blurts, "I'm crazy you know." Or "I'm cheating on you." He will then either deny he said it or play it off as a joke.