They tease us with clever poems, roses, daily texts and calls, only to turn around in the blink of an eye and completely disappear or disappoint us.
Guy’s fears of being vulnerable, of being loved and loving, lead them to enact their dating games or patterns.Like us, they have habitual ways of sabotaging themselves when it comes to romance and love.Unfortunately, men often follow these same self-destructive dead-end patterns over and over again, sinking possibilities of love into the netherworld in the process.Understanding dating patterns of the dating games men play can liberate us from these self-blaming thoughts. But before I help you understand dating games men play I want to make sure you take advantage of my free ongoing support: You can learn EXACTLY how to tell the DUDs from the STUDs, how to go from casual to a real commitment and much much more by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter! In this blog, I will take you behind the scenes and share those intimacies with you.
Those private moments have given me a unique window into understanding the different types of dating games men play and their underlying motivation for playing.
Who hasn’t fallen for that grand opening dating game, where they lure us with intoxicating conversations, funny dates, a perfect little heart necklace, delicious kisses and more? Fortunately, I’ve logged many therapy hours listening to men as they’ve opened up and explored their deepest needs and fears.
Looking back, I’ve noticed that I’ve written about a dozen or more blogs to shed light on how many men approach dating and mating. Men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming relationship.
For your convenience, these can now be found in the Dating Advice for Women Series How could he disappear so quickly after he came on so strong? Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. The dating games men play are both unconscious and conscious games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart.
The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away.
The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.