Agriculture meant individual farms, and people started valuing property over promiscuity.
We spend so much time looking for The One — browsing online profiles, going on awkward dates, trying to determine ideal compatibility — but could a plural mindset be a better fit for some of us? If monogamy works for you and your significant other, that’s fantastic. But for other people, it can actually make a lot of sense. Polyamory can encompass a lot of different types of relationships, all of which can ruffle some feathers among more traditional people.Let’s explore why, from biology to sociology to psychology…Monogamy is relatively rare in the animal kingdom; it’s the exception, not the rule, because evolution tends to reward being fruitful more than being faithful.Hell, snakes have massive writhing orgies called “mating balls” where everyone be gettin’ pregnant, and dolphins — adorable, intelligent dolphins — are crazy promiscuous. A bunch of bees having simultaneous sex with their queen for breeding purposes has very little to do with human relationships, right? In the book “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships,” one of the preeminent volumes on the biological basis of human sexuality, Dr. Cacilda Jethá propose a fairly shocking theory: Even though humans and chimps evolved from a common ancestor, we took our sex cues from a different cousin.Specifically the Bonobo, a hyper-intelligent great ape that lives in a complex society, which happens to be sexy as heck.
Bonobos are bo-boning Bonobo society is pretty great.
Not only is there free love, but also widespread peace, which is in direct contrast to other primates that engage in straight-up warfare.
Because bonobos aren’t all caught up in turf wars, there’s a lot more time for lounging around and laughing and sexing and tickling one another.
Kind of like your first year of college, except forever.
So if Ryan and Jethá are right, then polyamory is kinda the real “traditional” lifestyle.
Humans were just like bonobos — multiple partners for everyone, and all contributing to the wellbeing of the group — right up until the time we started owning stuff, according to Ryan and Jethá.